Your Unfolding Story

Is the story that’s unfolding, playing out the way you’d expect, the way you’d like it to? If not, why not? 

Or is your unfolding story uncharted territory?

It’s easy to have momentary lapses in judgment and discernment, when we convince ourselves to ride something out until it becomes the very obstacle preventing us from succeeding. Whether it be the success in love, work, or life. 

Perhaps you’re hanging on to situations, people, and places no longer serving the life you’ve imagined. If there’re any words of wisdom I wish to impart, it’s this: it’s much harder to keep holding on than it is to let go. This last statement deserves a repeat…

IT’S MUCH HARDER TO KEEP HOLDING ON THAN IT IS TO LET GO

Why hold on to negative stuff? This will not only impact your well-being, it will undermine your success. When we hang on to unacceptable friendships, less than ideal relationships, toxic workplaces, this influences our lives. 

There’s also something else to consider. You become a bobbsey twin to those you hang out with the most. If they are fine people, great. If they aren’t, then this won’t play out well. Why not get real and get on with a happier life only you can create? Some endings have a divine purpose, while others force us to get on with it and accept the inevitable. And it’s okay to experience endings, because this will always lead to new beginnings. Music to one’s ears. 

SO HOW’S YOUR UNFOLDING STORY PLAYING OUT?

Now, as we all know, endings don’t sound as good as new beginnings. I get that. Who here wants to share their marriage went downhill and hit rock bottom. Or their best friend made off with the woman they envisioned to be a life partner. Or the dream job ended up being the worst place to work. Maybe someone stole your creative idea and ran with it. Perhaps someone from your past shed light on something you didn’t see before and this gave you not only closure, but changed the way you feel about them. Shiitake happens.

LIFE’S EBBS AND FLOWS

An ending is one thing, but in life, some things can become a pattern, like a bad habit hard to break. Just maybe, we’re okay with what’s going down because we accept life will have its challenges and difficulties. Sad part is we make all kinds of excuses for why people are who they are or why something happened the way it did. At the end of any trial or bad narrative, we will always witness those spectacular rainbows. This may leave us to believe, whatever the “it” was, that left us sleepless wasn’t that bad after all. I’m telling you, if you feel something doesn’t feel right… it isn’t right. Trust that feeling. Those uncomfortable vibes surface for a reason, along with the confusion. This is something to pay attention to. Plus, you deserve better.

But enough, enough with all the excuses. When all is said and done, when it’s just you and your soother, or whatever pacifies your state of uneasiness, remember, calm always arrives after storms peter out. And it’s always wise to just comfortably situate yourself in a state of calm. It’s a space where you can address what needs addressing, from a place of power, that being from a place of peace. 

Calm acceptance of what happened overrides the conflicting, anxious, and unsettling moments that have a track record of disturbing one’s mellow. This notion alone gives us strength to carry on, knowing at the end of one not so pleasing story, there is a better one. A prize at the end of the rainbow.

ARE YOU VESTED IN THE BEST VERSION OF YOU?

Why question all the ambiguous life events, ever so subtly or not so subtly invading your head-space, heart-space, or both? It may very well include any external place to even a greater degree because of the negative thoughts and the role these adverse thoughts play in your day to day. This includes anything you habitually rewind and replay that has you caught up in a not so great state of being. And this is where we attract the unattractive. Thoughts can either make or break you.

Whenever anything overwhelms our head space or heart space, it’s but two of the most important areas to be aware of, as well as pay close attention to. What’s happening around you, to you, for you? And are you letting it get the best of you? If so, start with understanding where all the negativity is coming from and focus on where it is you’d rather be, mentally, spiritually, physically.

There are things in life destined to stay, the things that make you happy, content, and safe. And then there are those things in life destined to be released, all the stuff that has you questioning the nonsense… box it, seal it, and ship it. Ship it fast, ship it far.

WHAT MATTERS… YOU MATTER, YOUR LIFE, AND YOUR UNFOLDING STORY 

Happiness doesn’t just magically appear. Regardless, we can create it. Rather than having external events, situations, or issues place us in those dicey questionable perpetual circles, it’s time to shift our focus. Focused on our peace and sanity, respecting and valuing who we are, along with all those things that matter most. 

There’s nothing wrong with changing up your life a notch, but the key is to pay attention to the direction you plan to take. If you’re questioning why, then you have to do the work. Soul searching, digging deep to unravel the conflicting thoughts that keep you stuck in limbo in the wrong places, having to put up with the wrong people. If the sheer thought of moving on from any situation hampers your peace of mind, you’d have to probe further. Ask yourself why you’re feeling the way you do. Jot down what comes to mind in a journal, and review what you wrote a few weeks later. It will become clear.

If unhappy, the unfortunate part is you’ll only end up attracting the very people who are just as troubled. Misery loves company. Some of us question the obvious, while others ask why, when deep down, they already know the answer. This is your life, one meant to live fully, engage enthusiastically, and most of all, to enjoy. Through pleasure and pain, there’s reward… the unfolding story, the story you have the power to create.