‘Tis the season of love with Valentine’s Day fast approaching. This is the time of year when we plan something extra nice, weeks in advance for the special people in our lives. Everyone has a different approach whenever it comes to love. From one person to the next, views differ. What we do and how we deliver will depend on where we’ve been and who we are. For those happy in love… great. But how about those who are still searching for love? How do we go about attracting love that lasts a lifetime? First things first, you have to be the right person before you can consider the right person for you.
It’s not enough to be in the right place at the right time. You have to be the right person in the right place at the right time.
Love is an integral part of life and when in love, well, let’s just say, it makes a world of difference. Let’s face it, love is on our minds more than we care to admit. It’s as important to those in their early twenties as it is for someone well into their eighties and beyond.
I witnessed the deep affection my grandparents felt for one another. Throughout the years, the tenderness and warmth between them was apparent. I can attest, these two were definitely in love. So, I can assure you, this kind of love does indeed exist. Love that lasts a lifetime.
The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and never-ending trust and grace.
ATTRACTING LOVE THAT LASTS A LIFETIME WILL TAKE TWO PEOPLE AWARE OF WHAT IT TAKES
Pure love is about living from your heart-centeredness. It’s about letting things go and making choices from a healthy place. Letting go of expectations, fears, stuff we went through in the past, and the lies we tell ourselves. It’s you living in your authenticity, being true to you.
Don’t run into the arms of obsession, for that quickly fades. Long-lasting love comes from an open, loving heart.
This brings me to why I chose this subject. Too many people go through life not understanding what it means to be in love and the value it holds. We don’t take the time to grasp what this incredible feeling can do for not only our love life, but overall. It goes beyond wants and needs. This is opening our personal world to someone while trusting them with our hearts, which is a big deal.
VULNERABILITY… AN IMPORTANT ASPECT OF A LOVING RELATIONSHIP
Vulnerability plays into this and it’s as relevant for a woman as it is for a man. When we’re incapable of disclosing our fears, thoughts, and emotions, we are closed-off and considered beyond reach. How will any romantic relationship develop and evolve when it’s hard to get to know someone? If you were to ask me, I would have to say, it would be next to impossible.
Communication is vital. Verbal or non-verbal, this interchange will always provide a clue to where this relationship is at. Will this love survive and thrive, or will it become dormant and expire? Are you the only one relaying what’s in your heart? Any romantic relationship where you’re in it alone isn’t a relationship but a situationship. Too many people get stuck on some merry-go-round, to nowhere.
What happens if confused about how you feel? It will be difficult for the other person to detect who they can be with you when you have doubt and trust issues. A connection will be difficult to get off the ground and the relationship will falter. However, things can change, but only when there’s a will to change.
Vulnerability is the essence of romance. It’s the art of being uncalculated. The willingness to look foolish. And the courage to say, ‘This is me. I’m interested in you enough to show you my flaws, hoping you may embrace me for all that I am. But, more important, all that I am not.’
LOVE’S INTENTION, CREATING LASTING LOVE
Intentions have to be clear and concise. Clarity is essential. It’s you being transparent, and the only way is through introspection by checking in with you. Once you appreciate yourself and consider your worth, this self-assurance will lead to open dialogue with the one you’re attracted to. The key is first gaining clarity about who you are. You do this for you.
What are your likes and dislikes? Are there things you detest but are willing to just sweep under the carpet? Can you entertain compromise, or will something be a total deal-breaker? There are so many things to consider prior to dating, and there are some things we shouldn’t just dismiss. When we know, acknowledge, and deal with these things beforehand, it yields better results in the long run. When you’re at ease with yourself, you know and understand who you are, where you’ve been. This is when you’re more open to what you find acceptable and what you don’t. When we’re upfront, the relationship is on a different footing altogether.
TRUSTING YOU TRUSTING THEM
Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.
When you can identify everything that has made you who you are, and can accept all of your quirks, eccentricities, and idiosyncrasies. You become clear on why you attract the people you do. When you’re comfortable, at ease, happy, and in tune with yourself, you can open your heart to those you attract. There’s a confidence in knowing who you are. A confident person is an attractive person. And that may be just the ticket, one that calls upon one special someone to show up to follow your lead. Two people prepared to make it last.
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