With every person you date, you learn something. It could be something important about life, love, or both. Unhappy in love and you may, to some extent, find yourself off kilter in life. And life is all about balance. So there’s that. It’s when you are in balance spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally that something wonderful presents itself. Who knew? This is you, living a high-vibe lifestyle, living your ‘A’ game. And high-vibration is attractive. However, be it in dating, attraction is just the beginning. There’s something else to consider, such as valuable dating lessons. Lessons that will draw your attention away from something inferior to something superior, and may very well set you on course to a better love life. Sprinkled throughout this post and those to follow, you’ll come across just that, snippets of valuable dating lessons.
Too many people make excuses as to why they are unsuccessful, and why things haven’t worked out for them. I’ve found that a lot of times, things don’t work OUT because we refuse to put the work IN.
THE TEST
The question that is so mind-boggling: Why are so many choosing what isn’t good for them? Rather than going for what can thrive, they select sordid connections that can barely survive. With that said, they can even get stuck in these so-called relationships. The ones that will never get off the ground, that never really worked to begin with, and that are so beyond over. Everyone deserves to flourish in love so they can thrive in life, and with this, it’s important to harness whatever benefits the valuable dating lessons can teach. Once learned, you would never have need to repeat the drill. However, sometimes we are tested.
ONCE UPON A TIME
I’ve attended many formal functions similar to the event I’m about to share. This event stands out as a prime example. It was a black-tie gala. Tickets were expensive but so worth the price. Entertainment, dancing, drinks, and a five course dinner all included. The organizers had all tables decked out with exquisite floral arrangements that were part of the giveaways at the end of the evening. Under certain charger plates were tickets. While I was enjoying the evening, losing track of time, and paying no attention… I was told I won. I know!! With that said, it wasn’t the flower arrangement I had my eye on.
EENIE MEENIE MINEY… MOE – HAD I KNEW THEN WHAT I NOW KNOW
By now, you’re wondering where is she going with this as it has nothing whatsoever to do with the title. Oh, but it does. I was told the prize resembled a TV series from way back when called The Dating Game. The what?! Whereby I had to choose a date from three eligible bachelors. Three! They had impressive bios, were articulate speakers, and were easy on the eyes. The tallest fella caught my attention because I’m a tall gal and I love wearing heels. But let’s get real. It wasn’t only that. Throughout the evening, I felt someone looking at me, and I must confess, our eyes locked several times. So each time, I had nothing to return but a smile for the said eye catching fella (no pun intended). He who just happened to be the one I would have chosen… had it not been for the one my heart was set on.
THE IMPORTANCE OF KNOWING THE ONE YOU’RE WITH | JUST ONE OF MANY VALUABLE DATING LESSONS
With that said, I’m not the type who’d do something I wouldn’t want someone else doing… if you get my drift. At the time, I was dating a special someone. So, without hesitation, I gave the ticket to a friend. I know!! I liked the fella I was seeing (a great deal). However, the story get’s better.
It was a short time following the event when the chap I dated accepted a job offer in another city. The info blindsided me. Say what? So it became a long distance quasi relationship at best. Which, by the way, ended up going nowhere soon thereafter. Did you catch that word? If you did, you may wonder why I referred to the special relationship as being quasi. As a side note, it had nothing whatsoever to do with his move, but had everything to do with learning firsthand the definition of a superficial relationship. At a relatively young age, may I add! A perfect lesson at a perfect time in life. Read on. Like I said, it get’s better.
Every time you date someone with an issue that you have to work to ignore, you’re settling.
INACCURATE DEPICTION OF A CONNECTION THAT LEAD TO VALUABLE DATING LESSONS
How can anyone inaccurately depict someone who’s oh so wrong for them as being special? I know! Now and then, we can get lost in whatever we’re in. It could very well be where we either paid very little attention or simply ignored whatever was happening behind the scenes. Perhaps we took note, but preferred the denial route instead. Mistakes happen to the best of us, and it’s also where we could have benefited greatly from timely, valuable dating lessons. However, with that said, lessons are what we experience in due time, ultimately becoming beneficial for future reference.
What I learned over time: Never settle. Live it, learn it, never repeat it. Rather than stew over what was or wasn’t, the advice I ran with was to get through it, to get past it. I took a brief break from dating, reviewed the lessons he taught oh so well. After that, it was all about enjoying life, getting out with friends, basking in every special moment. Never once dwelling on what happened or didn’t happen. The key is being receptive to meeting someone new.