Our actions always follow our thoughts. So whatever we end up going through in life results from what we are thinking, good or bad. It’s cause and effect. If for example, we spoke without thinking, so much for a positive outcome. Sadly, we have to deal with the negative consequences which follow. Negativity is recurrent, as it comes around, it also goes around. Nevertheless, there comes a time when the negative drama must end. It’s when enough is enough. We draw the line in the sand and do an about-face. After all, why would anyone want to linger in negative space?
Emotional drama and communication breakdown serves no one. Even so, it’s so prevalent in society. Eventually, we need to fix something that’s broken, something no longer working. And to do this, we sometimes have no alternative but to face the challenges so we can get past the frustration.
The bottom line is we need to be heard. But what if someone who needs to listen refuses? In that case, everyone loses. The relationship fails because someone swept it under the carpet. Eventually, the dust collects where it’s visually unseen for the time being. But if it accumulates lookout. When something builds up under the surface, there’s nowhere for it to go. If one person or both people in a relationship live in denial, unhappily committed to what they needed to move on from, things get worse instead of better.
NEGATIVITY SERVES NO PURPOSE OTHER THAN CREATING EMOTIONAL DRAMA
Unfortunately, we know we must turn the page to get to the next chapter. However, if no one listens, frustration looms, and we grow weary. And long after the dust storm settled, long after the dirt piled up, inevitably it becomes the heap we trip over. What happens over time is instability creeps in. Before you know it, what was once a great relationship ends up not so great.
How can someone leave something no longer working, especially when they feel not only unhappy but so stuck? It’s difficult to leave, but it’s even harder to stay in a place where it’s emotionally challenging, not to mention draining. People who are trapped in a state of procrastination, indecision, and denial will eventually wish for freedom because they will miss peace. No one ever finds peace and happiness where there’s an absence of love, lack of understanding, and poor communication.
It’s difficult to trust any fickle relationship because it’s so uncertain. If the problematic situation becomes repetitive, someone will have to throw in the towel and call it a day. If negativity constantly goes back and forth, someone will have to take charge and move away from the situation to something strong, safe, and reliable. The one who had enough will have to come up with a new plan of action, one which combats the negative vibes they regrettably find themselves in.
WHEN IT’S LOVE
When people truly love you, they listen more intently to what you have to say. There’s an open line of communication. They want to make things work and would never pull a disappearing act. And it’s these same people that will want to get down to the bottom of whatever remains unclear and unsettled. In other words, they don’t let anything sit where it doesn’t belong. In a place where negativity steals everyone’s peace. What’s important to note is it always takes two. Both parties must be willing to make a wrong, right.
The day I understood everything, was the day I stopped trying to figure everything out. The day I knew peace was the day I let everything go.