Second Chances

The cell phone rang in the wee hours, awakening her from the first sound sleep she had in a very long time. Normally she never picked up a call at this hour, but the number on display told her she should. So she did. After an hour on the phone, the conversation ended with these words… “We’ll figure things out as we go and build from there, from the point of knowing. Knowing what we want and what we don’t. We’ll determine as we move forward.” Are second chances a step in the right direction? That depends… it hinges on the connection.

No doubt the past has some impact on our future, but only if we let it. It challenges us to move on, but this time with lessons learned. Letting go of what was and with renewed vision, looking forward to what’s yet to be. It’s important to leave the past in the past because if we don’t, it will not only affect a decision but an outcome. Just trying isn’t good enough. Place it aside, be ready and willing to start again in a new direction with renewed hope. But then what happens when you second guess? You end up on the wrong path, back to where you were. Not good. Sometimes what’s left is best… left.

IF QUESTIONING THE CONNECTION THEN SECOND CHANCES WON’T WORK

Perhaps there’s a situation where you feel somewhat nostalgic, still connected to what no longer exists or to what no longer matters. Yet in your mind, it continues like some screenplay set on perpetual replay. They had something to say, you had something to say, but the thing is, we never say what we really want to say. Left without words, we get entangled between taking a leap of faith and pulling back because we’re guarded and fearful, knowing we have a great deal to sacrifice. We forget how far we’ve come. Nevertheless, despite all the disappointment, we still stand strong. And that’s something noteworthy. Even if you went through a lot, just be confident knowing you’ve come a long way.

Weakness will always tempt us, even when we feel strong. We always look back, which only sets us up for further disappointment. Holding yourself from doing or saying what you should, realizing something’s missing, only to reminisce further about what didn’t work in the first place, and questioning why. By the way, questioning any relationship isn’t a good sign, especially one that’s going nowhere. It’s hard to let some things go. But let go you must, so you can get on with life.

HONEST WITH YOURSELF?

You may get to a point when you miss what you had, and a memory challenges you to question what it all means. Is it possible to find happiness in a space that doesn’t exist? Hopefully, you know the answer. Whatever you are going through will change given time. We end one cycle and tap into another. Letting go and making room for more positive aspects of love to find its way. And by being happy with who you are, you can attract someone better because you know you deserve better. It just takes time to get it right. And it starts with getting it right within one’s headspace, within oneself. Happy in your own skin, delighted in the life you can create for yourself.

Whenever we get caught up in overthinking what’s no longer working, we can get lost in thoughts of how good something should be, but isn’t. So when something new greets us, we wouldn’t see it or we wouldn’t be ready. Ready for new love, a new direction, a new life. Eventually, we end up missing out. We may not even want to admit that something is no longer what we thought it was. Things happen, people change, and there are things we don’t understand and will never understand. And that’s okay. But to avoid looking into what you need to see, those things always catching you off guard, only to have this ugh moment, realizing what was, wasn’t. 

SITUATIONSHIP OR A RELATIONSHIP… IT’S A CHOICE

We focus on projects, on work, on the life we are building, hoping to forget what should long be forgotten. Sadly, we get caught up in a conflict between heart and mind where emotions test logic, trapping us in illusion. It’s hard to move on, trying to get past an event, a situation, or a person. But getting past the past or whatever is bugging the hell out of us is the key. Why take one step forward only to slide back again? We continue to fight off those thoughts in some unguarded moment, all the while ignoring intuition as it whispers, “If it didn’t work out in the past, why would it in the future?” There’s a reason it ended. There’s always a reason. His reasoning, hers, and then there’s the accurate account of what actually took place.

In a nutshell, the one who got away or the one where the relationship is taking a nosedive isn’t the one for you. Perhaps both parties felt some kind of connection, but that doesn’t mean there’s going to be a solid relationship, one that lasts. Too many people simply don’t understand the consequence of going back. Or they may just tell themselves to let go, but hold on instead, waiting for some sign that will help them figure something out. No one has the time to waste trying to just figure stuff out, questioning whether to let go or to continue to reach out. Just let it go, see people for who they truly are. Two people not meant for one another.

WHEN SECOND CHANCES ARE A GEM

But then, what happens when the right one shows up? Are you ready? Truly ready? After all, you fight the good fight, and let go only to come back to right some wrong. We return to the one who was always the one. The one who keeps their word, the one who makes the calls, the one who makes amends, will always deserve another chance. Two people on the right track headed in the right direction, embracing second chances.

Love comes and love goes, people come and people go, but in the end, the one meant to be will always be there for you.