Losing to win isn’t a new concept. How many times have you found yourself at a crossroads, questioning what just happened and why? Let’s just face it, some things work while others don’t. I’m here to tell you, it’s okay. Everything won’t always pan out the way you’d like it to. But that’s life and what matters is you and what you allow to circulate in your space, in your thoughts, in your life. It’s important to know when it’s time to let go of what’s causing stress. The key is handling life’s ebbs, so you can get on with life’s flows.
NOW WHAT??
Whenever we find ourselves in any predicament, it’s important to not sit in these situations long. Eventually, we have to move away from the choppy waters and head for somewhere calm. By redirecting our energy, we can heal and recover, which will help us to press on. I believe quiet moments help us do just that. In calmness, in stillness, free from distraction, we’re more inclined to understand just how precious life is.
It’s the aha we have, in those unlikely, unexpected, surreal moments when something tells you, losing to win is where it’s at. It’s when we accept our role or what we allowed to play out in those unforeseen, questionable situations. The answer is mastering the art of forgiveness, forgiving our part, followed by clearing the air with those who had a part, so we can get on with life. It’s important to sort through the misunderstandings or those intentional or unintentional situations that arise from nowhere. But what happens when someone doesn’t give you the last word?
Healing can be a long and winding road or a straightforward march to the finish line.
WIN OR LOSE – YOU CHOOSE
We are in charge of the way we manage the time we have. It begins with what and who we allow into our space. The way we think is the way we will function. How we function during trying times can take us to one of two destinations, a place of peace or to a place where there’s further conflict. Sadly, too many get swept away based on some negative emotion, perception, or viewpoint. All caught up in the commotion leads to even more confusion. Only to land us somewhere in hot water – flailing, indecisive, going nowhere.
The uncertainties of life carry enough unpredictability without having to deal with drama. Theatrics keep us stuck in contemplation, wondering why. This is where we avoid living life fully until we miss out altogether. It’s only in serene moments of retrospection when something tells us it’s time to revisit, reassess, and refocus. However, if we don’t take the time to re-evaluate our circumstances, gauge where we are, and assess where we’re going, we won’t get far. By readjusting our focal point, we adapt. No longer willing to put up with the same situations, stuck in some situational pattern, reliving negative events set on replay, which only holds us back from living a desired life.
Creating success is a tug of war between your mind and your heart, your fears, and your dreams. If your fears win, you lose.
LOSING TO WIN AND WINNING
Whenever we resist fine-tuning, tweaking, or making a few adjustments here and there, it will prevent positive changes from flowing. Any reluctance on our part will just lead to more of the same thing, further wavering and second guessing. Action is where things begin to happen, where we accept the endings and open ourselves up to those new beginnings. You saying something, doing something, changes something. Whether the change is internal, external, or both. Do not fear, losing to win isn’t all that bad. In fact, it’s great. So it’s important to get past the fear.
BEYOND FEAR
I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that?
What we hear, see, and focus our time and attention on will influence our lives. Our hearts whisper one thing, while our thoughts convince us of another. Whenever there’s a disconnect between heart and mind, it keeps us stuck in questionable places, spaces, and situations, feeling something isn’t right. This can happen just about anywhere, within relationships, friendships, or workspaces. It could be in church, a place you volunteer, or in those highly esteemed social circles. All I want to mention here is, trust you – trust those meaningful intuitive moments.
Whenever you fear something, you become more reluctant to change something. This is when you believe taking a chance on something better is beyond reach. Well, I’m here to tell you, you deserve better. You are worthy of second chances for happiness, for greater opportunities, for a better life. What’s important is to stop hanging on to the things that drove you to this negative space. Why hold on to the people and places that don’t have your best interest at heart? They’ve made their decision, now it’s time to make yours.
GET THROUGH IT SO YOU CAN MOVE PAST IT
Joy isn’t out there, parked in some dreamy distance, its closer than you think. But that’s the point I want to raise. Think you can, you win, think you can’t, you lose. Now overthinking is another ball game altogether. Think too long, too hard, too much and just like that, bliss is nowhere to be found but in some dream state. Overthinking until you inevitably tune out, strike-out, only to lose out.
Sad to say, we struggle when we numb every sensation that trickles into our consciousness. We may have an inkling, yet downplay those ever fleeting intuitive moments, telling us to take a different road, the high road. However, we continue to do nothing but settle in unsettling situations. This is when Aunt Hilda drops a few hints and finally tells you, “Child, you must mosey along now.” But the thing is, you aren’t a child anymore. You’re that thirty, forty, fifty, or sixty-year-old who had dreams and is still dreaming. Egads! Now, dreaming is one thing. Planning, taking a chance, doing, and getting her done is another. I’d rather be the person who takes a chance to change what needs changing.
Sometimes you have to stop, turn around and take the longer, harder road. That road hopefully will take you to where you want and need to be.
LOSING TO WIN
Want a new beginning? Then just go for it. Life is short. Do something, do anything, and make it happen. Sometimes you have to go back to the beginning, so you can figure things out, and change that one thing that can turn your life around. So what if you go full circle, or a step back? What if I told you that step back you consider a setback could very well be what may just give you the power to get back on track? This is where you have a sense of purpose, a sense of direction – hope. It’s a distinct moment that will help you understand something you didn’t see before. You discover what you lost, in actuality, is a gift. Sometimes we have to lose to win. It’s never nice having to lose, but it could be the best thing that can happen.
Sometimes we lose friendships, relationships, or connections. Why? Just go back, assess what happened or didn’t happen, and you will discover it wasn’t what you actually thought it was. And this is a glorious moment because this is where a loss is a gain. It’s you deciding what’s acceptable and what isn’t. It’s the boundaries you create. If you want a healthy, happy life, these boundaries are essential.
ICING… MORE WAYS THAN ONE
Sometimes situations unfold out of the blue, when someone does or says something that takes you by surprise. It could be, you mean well, but someone just didn’t like the program you delivered. Bottom line, we can’t please everyone.
As it so happens, people make a bigger deal out of something than it’s worth. Okay, like I get it, they aren’t happy. No one is impressed 100% of the time. That just isn’t how life is. But it doesn’t stop people from displaying poor behavior. How many chances do you give someone before you decide to just give up on them altogether? Sometimes, it’s best to part ways by saying and doing nothing. Sure there are times when you try to work it out, to no avail – and that’s when you’ll have to decide what’s best for you. And this is what I refer to as losing to win.
What about the strike three you’re out rule? This is when we forgive and forget, giving the other person the benefit of the doubt on more than one occasion. However, eventually, you’ll have to draw a line and get on with your life. Where was I? Oh yeah, there’s nothing like losing fake friendships, loveless relationships, or unworthy connections. It’s but the tip of the iceberg, but in the same breath – it’s also the icing on the cake.
JUST IMAGINE
If you can imagine life free of disturbance, intrusion, and disruption, whether it’s physical, mental, or emotional, you are ahead of the game. From here, you can clear out your space and plant only those things you love that love you in return. It’s releasing everything that no longer has a promising future so you can dream of a life you desire. You can set new intentions to manifest promising new beginnings with people who deserve your time and energy. It’s here, you can lean in to discover what’s missing and why – working it out from here. Win or lose, losing to win is what will set you apart, heading on the right path, leading to ultimate peace and happiness.
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