What is closure and why is it essential? Closure is the ending of a chapter, when we come to terms with what happened so we can get on with life. When we stay on course and focus on the prize, we can achieve the extraordinary. And if we stumble and jump the track, it’s up to us to get back on track. Seriously, all the strength we need, rests within us, from willpower to our determination to see something through to completion.
There’s something to be said for “be true to you,” true to your beliefs and values. Even true to the little voice within that says, what you are going through isn’t what you expected. However, there comes a time when there’s no alternative but to set boundaries, whether at work, in love, or with any external pressure that demands negative attention. Unfortunately, there are people who leave us little to no room to live peacefully.
We need not give anyone an explanation about the way we live. And we understand the setbacks surface to not only test but to challenge us. We take the time needed to recover from the negative distraction and ensure it doesn’t happen again because we learn the lesson the first time. And if we stay on course and practice grace even while under pressure, we succeed.
You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.
TAP IN ON INNER STRENGTH
There will always be something or someone who pushes us down the wrong path and in a direct line with conflict. Whether the conflict is external to us or internal, the key is to not play the game where the rules are one-sided. We play by a fair set of rules, the rules of understanding, compassion, kindness, and love. We are all accountable for not only who we are, but we are responsible for the way we think and react. So we must remove those negative thoughts and attitudes, which have a tendency to hinder progress and success.
Inevitably, over time, something will not only challenge us but will force us to review whatever the unsettling situation may be. The key is to review the facts, assess the truth of the matter, make peace with it, and then close the door. We give thought briefly to what unfolded and understand what took place was a life lesson. When provoked into a conflict, it’s important to spend very little time in that space. Our time is short, and we are to enjoy, appreciate, and relish life. It’s difficult having to deal with negativity. Whenever we entertain conflict, our energy becomes depleted, so it’s essential to seek closure sooner rather than later. Better yet, refuse to take part in any dysfunctional drama.
Have gratitude for the things you’re discarding. By giving gratitude, you’re giving closure to the relationship with that object, and by doing so, it becomes a lot easier to let go.
CLOSURE RESULTS WHEN WE REMAIN STRONG IN SPIRIT
We work hard to achieve our goals. Our mission in life is to succeed, but at what cost? When others stand in our way, the best way to deal with the negative distraction is to not take part. It’s not worth the time, energy, or effort. So we skirt around the issue. In other words, we avoid the matter, the person, the conflict altogether. The thing is no one wins this game so why bother playing. We let it be and simply choose to let it go. Nothing should ever stand in the way of happiness. Why do so many of us avoid making difficult decisions especially when something diminishes our sense of well-being?
The theological virtue of hope is the patient and trustful willingness to live without closure, without resolution, and still be content and even happy because our satisfaction is now at another level, and our Source is beyond ourselves.
The key is to remain vigilant and mindful. And in your truth you will find strength. Sometimes we have no choice but to address the matter and put it to rest. Ask, “Will something positive come to light with this issue, situation, or will this go on only to lead us in the opposite direction?” If it heads for the negative zone, then don’t waste your time. Trust your truth, and with love and understanding, end it with kindness. Closure, whether internal or external is to move on peacefully by remaining strong in spirit.