You may have had deja vu, when you felt you’ve gone through this before. When you thought this is it. But it isn’t. Adding more weight to the emotional baggage. How did we lose the one who made our heads spin, and our hearts beat a mile a minute? A connection that felt so right, yet ended oh so wrong. And who we thought they were, they weren’t. Understand, what we went through is part of life. The key is to release how we interpret the loss, and rather than feel discouraged, try expecting something better instead. Intuitively, we know when something works or doesn’t. We had to let it go to move on without letting the emotional baggage impede our happiness.
It’s hard to be clear about who you are when you are carrying around a bunch of baggage from the past. I’ve learned to let go and move more quickly into the next place.
When something is right, there’s no breakup, no separation, no end. We misunderstood the relationship for what it was. A relationship meant to go nowhere. Inflated egos will always set the stage for unrealistic expectations, demanding a relationship be more than it is. When we focus on our well-being, on our success, we attract someone more in line with whom complements us. A great relationship should never be a struggle to maintain.
WHY LET EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE KEEP YOU FROM YOUR HAPPINESS?
We accept the fact that the person was not our person. When we believe that we deserve love, we choose someone who can grow with us. A special someone who accepts who we are without getting into a fuss about who we aren’t. To build a new life, we must focus on new beginnings. And so it is with relationships. To attract new relationships, we have to replace an old way of thinking for a new way of thinking. No longer living in the past, we live in the moment. Looking back, focusing only on why something didn’t work will not only make you unhappy, this will lead to what you regretted experiencing… an unsatisfying relationship. Not that the relationship was all that bad, it just wasn’t that great.
The past gets carried with us. It’s always there.
Over time, we discover we tried to avoid the red flags. With hindsight, we get it. We understand why two people went separate ways. There was a reason we wallowed in indecisiveness. If we have to question any relationship, then we have to reconsider its value. What about acknowledging the truth buried within our emotions? We would then realize how wrong we were and how disappointing the relationship really was. Time and clarity work together, helping us to discover that emotions can signal a problem with a relationship. And the emotional baggage will only keep us in limbo if we let it, preventing us from attracting new love.
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