Lost for Words? End of a Chapter doesn’t have to Mean a Closed Book

The story you tell yourself is relevant. Tell yourself a better story and you are more apt to express what you think and feel. But when you lack confidence and have doubts, there will be moments when fleeting thoughts curtail essential communication. You realize something has to give. Especially if there’s more to an emotional connection. Sadly, you don’t communicate and instead hide your emotions, unable to express yourself because you are too afraid or you are lost for words. How many of us fail to convey our feelings because we can’t find the words to do so?

SPEECHLESS

Reconciliation is unlikely when people are stuck in indecisive energy. Some of us have trouble expressing our feelings about love and commitment. We refuse to get on board and will choose not to communicate effectively. Perhaps it’s because we aren’t prepared to compromise. Maybe we fear the steps needed to make reconciliation happen even though we care a great deal for the other person. But what happens if we were to run into them? There will be an uncomfortable moment where two people remain lost for words. It’s stressful having to carry concealed emotion. But what’s worse is having this emotion and being unable to express it.

In time, we will regret our decision to disregard these feelings. It’s sad to watch two people pretend everything is ok when it isn’t. When we want to communicate, yet refuse to do so even when the thought of a connection stirs something deep within us. Those who would like to explore the possibility of a reunion are too afraid to admit this. But what happens if doubt follows fear? We become more reserved. The key is to stop assuming a relationship will not work if given another chance. We overthink only to get lost in our thoughts of what was and what we wish could be. Sadly, we just give up.

LOST FOR WORDS

To reunite, we have to approach the other person and engage in conversation. Lack of communication will only yield an impasse. You can’t read how someone perceives a connection. So you will have to trust your intuition, be brave, and find out if getting back together is mutual. While we struggle with our pride, fearful of rejection, we remain stuck. Never knowing the outcome and neglecting what might be a great relationship if given a chance. 

Sometimes people have to grow apart so they can grow together. But someone needs to make the first move to break the ice. Protecting one’s self-esteem will only create more confusion. When our hearts and heads aren’t in agreement, we tell ourselves tales and try to make them fit a storyline. But if they don’t, we remain distant, ignore how we feel, and refuse to express what we think. Lack of expression leads to no communication, no reunion, and no reconciliation. 

The couple will never come together because they don’t know what to do, what to say, and how to say it. Communication issues are always at the forefront of a relationship in trouble. We don’t have to stay stuck. Everyone has a choice to express themselves. Why not look at what the relationship meant to you, and why it didn’t go the distance, without trying to convince yourself it would be crazy to reach out? 

MISSED OPPORTUNITY

Years later, remorse and regret will set in. Even though there’s a strong connection, we keep way too much hidden because we’re lost for words. How can we clear up a situation when we have problems finding the right words to express how we feel? Maybe we’re afraid of sounding foolish. Perhaps it’s something from childhood or prior experience that left us to opt for silence. We hold on too tightly to the concept of love until we’re unable to open our hearts. We let go of the one who meant a great deal, start something new with someone else, only to dream of the one we miss.

If someone isn’t willing to make a relationship work, nothing will ever happen. Lack of self-confidence will only prevent you from expressing what’s on your mind and in your heart. If two people want the same thing, yet never express their feelings, they will never know what could be if given a chance. It’s difficult to detach emotionally from a relationship that felt right. Knowing it was a miscommunication that led to the separation.

If you want that special someone back, don’t just think about it. Do something. Open up and tell them how you feel. We create distance when we refuse to communicate. Just because two people ended a chapter doesn’t mean they have to close the book.