When I was just a kid, my siblings and I would play outdoors. But before we left the house, my mother would always say play nice. Well, out we went with those words fresh in our minds. However, within no time a conflict arose, a fight broke out, and one of us ended up hurt. Decades later, things didn’t change much, okay we are no longer kids, but we still experience indifference.
A conflict could stem from several factors, but here we will consider how jealousy, envy, and rivalry instigates not only trouble but can lead to a lonely place. It takes a self-centered person wanting to control the relationship. To do this, someone will exercise spiteful tactics. Eventually, the one with selfish motives will end up facing rejection, further reinforcing what they dreaded the most, alienation. We always conjure what’s concealed within our hearts, so care must be taken with our thoughts, actions, and words.
There are three principles in a man’s being and life, the principle of thought, the principle of speech, and the principle of action. The origin of all conflict between me and my fellow-men is that I do not say what I mean and I don’t do what I say.
INTERNAL CONFLICT LEADS TO EXTERNAL CONFLICTS
When struggling with inner conflict, frustration will be the only thing to surface. Instead of understanding our personal role in verbal exchanges, we imagine and foster emotional wounds. Next, the person with a quarrelsome tendency will do what they think will make themselves feel better. And that is to inflict punishment on those they consider the reason for their unhappiness. When contending with someone’s anger, it’s as challenging as climbing a vertical wall, having to watch our every move. We overlook the essential aspects of life, missing out on what we need the most while adhering to harmful interactions. We end up missing important facets of love, laughter, respect, peace, and harmony whenever we live in conflict.
Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.
When someone refuses to communicate, issues will always go on unsettled. The offended person who continues to suppress their emotions assumes the problem will take care of itself. Matters don’t take care of themselves; somewhere down the line, there will be a turning point. When someone’s anger gets the best of them, and they can no longer control their reaction, they end up unleashing harsh words. Words kept under wraps until a misunderstanding takes place. The one with pent-up resentment won’t accept their responsibility for the communication breakdown. Unaware their hasty words and actions played a major part in the separation.
CONFLICT COMES FROM SOMEWHERE BUT LEADS TO NOWHERE
While dwelling on past problems, we end up in a negative space. Where unresolved issues resurface, there’s always harbored resentments. These contentions not only invade tranquility but attack peace of mind. Chronic conflicts do nothing more than bring about instability in relationships, friendships, and families. It provokes a deep rift, bringing relations to the point of no return until separation is inevitable. It’s important to work out problems but what happens when you can’t sort through difficulties together? It’s important to leave it be by forgiving, forgetting, and getting on with life. Perhaps, it’s never too late to learn how to play nice.
Conflict cannot survive without your participation.
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