Over the Christmas break, there we were, a few friends sharing some interesting personal stories. If you have followed this blog, you already know I enjoy sharing my two cents whenever it comes to relationships. Those relationships that once were special yet didn’t get off the ground or didn’t have the ending we desired, are stories that pique interest. Now, what if someone you are no longer with, still loves you? What if they were the one? The one that got away.
As difficult and challenging as that may be, both parties for whatever reason, moved on from one another. Maybe one person moved on without letting the other know this was their intention, or perhaps they surprised themselves. As the clock kept ticking, they not only lost their focus, but lost sight of the relationship altogether, hence lost touch with the reality of what went wrong.
We all know, time doesn’t wait for anyone. Sometimes we walk away for a good reason, and other times for no reason at all. Regardless, we all need closure. Perhaps the problem was a communication breakdown or the timing was all wrong. Maybe someone needed more time to figure it all out.
THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY
Communication problems occur when someone’s hesitant to speak what was on their mind or in their heart. Guaranteed there’s always something going on beneath the surface and behind the scenes whenever anyone takes their time to relay a message. Choosing to be deliberately cautious, only to end up holding back what they needed to say is never beneficial for any relationship. When someone is afraid to say the wrong words, they ultimately choose no words. And as careful as they are with what to say, this will leave something to be desired.
Frustration will lead to disappointment, which inevitably turns into regret. Regret over what happened keeps us stuck. There’s an inability to cope with the reality of what took place and went oh so wrong. Perhaps something was missing within the relationship to begin with. Maybe it was more in line with a missed opportunity to say or do something that could have turned the situation around. Maybe someone simply decided to not visit some aspect of what the relationship really meant. So, rather than communicate this, they did what they knew best, and that was to do nothing. In a nutshell, the relationship was disregarded.
Sometimes we don’t give the relationship enough time to grow. Perhaps we didn’t appreciate what we had until it was gone. And now all that’s left is nothing but regret. Bottom line, someone missed an opportunity; however, realized this a little too late.
HOW DO YOU MAKE THINGS RIGHT, WHEN IT WENT SO WRONG?
Back in the day someone misconstrued what took place. They let their ego take the driver’s seat, and just sped off. In hindsight, they now feel the situation robbed them of something special. In life, we make mistakes, sometimes easy to fix, but most of the time not so easy. Some relationships when they end, they end. No reconciliation, end of a love story that just maybe wasn’t even a love story. True love stories never have a sad ending.
But what if someone misses what they once had and now feel lost without you? They are now missing a specific emotional and spiritual connectedness? In other words, having a problem with getting you out of their head space. The stumbling blocks arise whenever someone’s afraid to express themselves. Now what if? What if we boldly took a step to let the special someone know how we feel?
I’m one of the few people I’ve ever met who is blessed enough to be able to love the one who got away.
Whenever we fail to extend ourselves by being unwilling to admit a mistake and reluctant to take a chance, the relationship loses. Those who continually press the replay button become inconsolable, because they relentlessly acknowledge a void. A special something is missing from their life and that special something is someone, the one who got away. Unfortunately, negative energy takes place whenever there’s regret over what happened or what didn’t happen.
THERE’S A LESSON IN THE UNFINISHED STORY
Deep down we admit to ourselves we perhaps were the ones who messed up. The thing is life has a way of reminding us. We see that special someone we once knew at a distance and do an about face and walk in another direction. Or you come face to face, only to turn around abruptly in search of the closest exit furthest from where they stand. What? No back door? Why do we do this?
On the surface all we see is one image, but there’s something more than meets the eye. There’s something we either fail to see or simply never see, and it’s usually those things buried deep within one’s heart… the unfinished business, an unfinished story. How do you make things right, when something went so wrong? What do you do to close an audio chapter when it’s stuck on continuous replay?
Perhaps, somewhere in the storyline, there was a lesson both parties needed to learn. To not repeat the same mistakes when the next special person comes along.
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