What if decisions were based on an eeny, meeny, miny, moe? Imagine every decision where the choice is always moe. But the thing is, some decisions aren’t always that easy. At minimum, thought goes into what we choose. And there’s even the possibility we may reconsider, so what we decide shouldn’t be set in stone. In other words, we should be able to reassess and readdress decisions. Our choices will depend on how we process what information we have. And it’s our interpretation of what we believe to be true or false, along with what we see, hear, and feel, that will lead to our final selection. Right person, wrong person, does it matter? You bet your sweet patootie is does.
One of the keys to happiness is to surround yourself with the right people.
When you trust, value, love, and respect you, you are far more inclined to make better choices because you are coming from a spiritually, mentally, and emotionally healthy space. Just by leaning into your intuition, you’ll know. Call it a hunch, a suspicion, or an inkling. It doesn’t matter. It’s there for a reason and it’s there to guide you in making better choices. Once you tap in, you’ll be able to decipher between someone who’s right, compared to someone who isn’t.
Love isn’t about finding the perfect person, but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
CONFIDENCE AND DISCERNMENT GO HAND IN HAND
If we distrust, disrespect, and devalue who we are, we’re going to make poor decisions. This includes choosing the wrong partner. Confident people who believe they are worthy of better are far more likely to attract better, attracting someone who may just be the right person. To discern is also a factor in choosing wisely. Especially when determining what’s right and what isn’t, and to distinguish the difference between good and bad.
RIGHT PERSON WRONG PERSON – WILL YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE STUCK ON AUTOPILOT?
I kid you not. There are those who operate on autopilot with no sense of direction whatsoever. That could be risky. Let’s just say you give your time, energy, and love readily to anyone who’s disrespectful. It’s really you disrespecting yourself, undermining your value and worth. You deserve someone considerate, someone who holds you in high regard, someone trustworthy. So the key is to hold out for a better person so you can meet the best person. Take your time in getting it right and you will find the right person. A wrong person is simply not the right person for you. And as the adage goes, people will show us who they truly are. So there’s that.
Kindness, patience, and compassion are all lovely words expressed by decent people, but it’s highly unlikely a wrong person will possess such traits. Don’t get me wrong, they may project a positive stance when you first meet. However, a wrong person will tire of playing nice, so their natural tendencies will emerge. Attributes more in-line with strict, arrogant, and controlling, with an inability to communicate effectively. Spot the difference? The thing is, the wrong person is more inclined to have difficulty discerning between right and wrong, good and bad. See what I mean? These folks easily succumb to temptation, deliberately exploring their options, always seeking but never finding.
IDENTIFYING THE BLIND SPOTS
When we attract someone, it’s important to have a clear vision of who we’re attracting, and a firm understanding of boundaries and why they’re so important. Along with, wiping the slate clean by releasing every negative aspect of any past connection that lingers and may pose as a detriment to future relationships. When a new person enters the picture, it’s wise to be aware of the blind spots.
This is where curiosity and attentiveness can help determine what our next steps should be. Is it wise to take more time to get to know someone better, or do we already have the complete picture and need not waste anymore time? Hmm… blue door, red door?
WHEN SOMEONE GETS QUIET ARE THEY THE RIGHT PERSON OR THE WRONG PERSON?
Listen to what the person is saying and what they aren’t saying. Heed what they’re telling you and what they aren’t telling you. There’s a fine line between what’s said and what isn’t.
Another telltale sign is someone’s actions, which by the way, will speak loud and clear. There are reasons those not so great relationships descended into extinction (here’s to hoping).
The right man in your life will fly across the world to say hello instead of saying goodbye.
Get to know your deal breakers. What works for you and what doesn’t? Hmm… what if you’re dating moe, who’s happy being footloose and fancy-free while you’re innocently standing in the backdrop mimicking a prop? If that be the case, time to strategize, readdressing eeny is a must, because this moe simply isn’t your cup of tea.
If you love the wrong one so much, just imagine how much you can love the right one.
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Very good!! You are sure a witty writer.