Since February is a month we focus on love, I will stay on topic. Some time ago, I wrote a post called Living in your Truth from a Dare. The gist of the post was about someone daring someone else to take action. Sometimes we need a slight nudge before we enter the space of love or else we would end up alone. Not that there’s anything wrong with being alone as some of us prefer to stay single. However, what if you don’t like being single and no longer want to feel lonely?
What if you had someone special in mind but never gathered enough courage to ask him or her out? I have one thing to say, stop wasting time and just call them. It’s as simple as doing what you want and need to do. So, stop fretting and pick up the phone or better yet, ask them in person. Do it for you. For nobody else but you… and your peace of mind.
LOVE ONLY HAPPENS WHEN WE TAKE CHANCES
This advice will save you years of pining over someone you may have had the opportunity of sharing a life with. It’s easy to pick up a phone. Perhaps it will take a little more effort to approach them and ask them out. Ok, they may say no, but hey, that’s really not a big deal. However, it may be, to your ego. Tell that superego of yours to take a hike. We have the tendency of holding on to pride, afraid of getting hurt and fearing rejection. Who cares? Oh, you care? Well, let’s talk in 5, 10 or 15 years from now when you tell me you wished you did something or said something but didn’t.
It will be much harder to live a life of regret than it would to live with the memory of rejection. Yes, you will initially be disappointed, not to mention embarrassed, but at least you will have your answer. Crushed feelings hurt, but eventually, you will get over the heartache in time. Especially, when you meet someone else who may be a better love match. However, the memory of what you didn’t do but perhaps should have done will be extremely painful years later. Why? Because there will always be a nagging doubt and persistent thought at the back of your mind… what if… what if she said yes, what if he was the one?
LIVE A LIFE OF NO REGRET AND YOU WILL NEVER BE STUCK
An acquaintance once said, “I admired her for so long and finally summoned the courage to ask her out. And there she was single no more, walking hand in hand with him by her side. There was a day I almost did but didn’t, instead, I turned around and took the first exit.” I was curious and asked, “When did you almost ask her out?” His reply took me by surprise, “Six years ago.” Initially, it sounded like it happened recently. He regretted not asking her out ever since he laid eyes on her and that was ten years ago.
The only things I regret, and the only things I’ll ever regret are things I didn’t do. In the end, that’s what we mourn. The paths we didn’t take. The people we didn’t touch.
Do you see where I’m going with this? I don’t know which is worse, the pain of knowing someone isn’t interested or the pain of never finding out that they could be. Personally, I would rather know. Living a life of regret is a painful experience which lasts a lifetime. One simple smile and saying hello to someone you like takes but a nanosecond. Asking someone on a date takes but a moment. Make the moments of your life matter. Muster up the courage to take a chance because you never know.
In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.
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