Some people question why they have no one to tango with, while others question why they feel lonely during a tango. Why are people alone and lonely, while others are lonely but never alone? A few people fail to realize that they either keep pushing people away or keep attracting the wrong people. For whatever reason, they continue to carry extra baggage, which consists of nothing more than an emptiness within their heart. There are those who interpret being alone challenging, refusing to be by themselves, fearing the ache that resonates within, only to end up in unhealthy relationships. When they need to leave, they end up staying because they fear being alone.
People think being alone makes you lonely, but I don’t think that’s true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.
We can detect alliances having a negative influence because we feel it. To the extent of ending up with those who may hinder our way of life. It’s those relationships that call attention to why we feel the way we do… de-energized after being together. This lack of harmony yields nothing positive and will only bring about more setbacks. It takes a lot of energy to be in the company of those who don’t bring out our best. This harmful energy not only affects thoughts but can lead to adverse behavior hence unsettling affairs.
In due course, we come to terms with the loneliness and accept that we are all responsible. In charge of the life we lead, of what unfolds, and the people we attract. Accountable for our own moves, keeping in step while creating our own opportunity or adversity. It’s when we go back to square one by taking stock of what’s working and purging what isn’t.
NEVER GET ENTANGLED DOING THE TANGO
When assessing our lives we recognize when something isn’t quite right. We know we have to let go of unpleasant people and when we do; we change. As a result, we experience a significant improvement and witness a positive difference in our lives. And with this positive change, we attract meaningful connections. This relieves us of the guilt or regret we go through when ending unhealthy relationships.
We only have ourselves to blame when caught off guard, but we continue blaming others. The blame game is nothing more than an ego-driven rivalry when both parties refuse to take responsibility for the state of affairs. One led the dance while the other followed. By making poor assessments, forming inaccurate assumptions, and refusing to take note, everyone involved ended up with the wrong dance partner. Here, we deflect fault because it’s always easier to point fingers in another direction.
THERE’S A SAYING: IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO
Now and then there’s no alternative but to sit out the dance, especially when someone’s unhappiness distorts the truth. And the truth is we can’t fix someone else’s unhappiness we can only fix our own. It’s when we learn the lessons and dance again, only this time taking the lead. By separating ourselves from unacceptable relations this will open possibilities. By focusing on exceptional relationships there’s an opportunity to meet a better dance partner. An offended ego will always continue to wrestle even while dancing, only to end up in a soulful dance alone and lonely.
Keep in mind that to avoid loneliness, many people need both a social circle and an intimate attachment. Having just one of two may still leave you feeling lonely.