Peace is not a relationship of nations. It is a condition of mind brought about by a serenity of soul. Peace is not merely the absence of war. It is also a state of mind. Lasting peace can come only to peaceful people.
Occasionally, we enter a period in life when ugly surfaces. I was miserable… let’s face it, when something is bad it’s bad. And living in denial isn’t a healthy place. Regardless of who the entanglement is with, whether with family, friends, or colleagues, it’s now up to you to call it as you see it… a war zone. When we lurk in a battlefield, the war within will intoxicate our soul, while our spirit mourns for better days.
We jump on the merry-go-round of professed love, followed by instability, insecurity, and conflict. Chaos and drama set the stage for even more opposition, discord, and finally division. Wow, is this supposed to be what life is all about? Is it possible to love your way through it?
I woke up one day and thought, ‘Enough is enough with bullying myself.’ The war is within you, and that’s also where it’s won. You just have to tackle your insecurities and then let them go.
CRAVING THE SPOTLIGHT
Have you ever experienced discussions, which may have started nicely but somehow never failed to end up on the other side of the tracks? Why the unpleasantries? Could it be because melodramatic individuals don’t receive the attention they expect? Perhaps it’s even possible they seek conflict because it’s all they know. Maybe, it’s what they thrive on, for it’s the only way for them to receive the attention they crave. For whatever reason, they seem satisfied once they sense someone else’s unhappiness… besides theirs. What if they don’t receive the attention they demand?
For some, any form of attention will suffice. Even if that means negative attention. They will go so far as to do something irrational like deploying malicious intent. Ultimately, taking joy in the upset. Every so often, they will take it a step further, claiming someone has done them wrong. Even when they were the ones who instigated the drama.
How is it they live in such harmony the billions of stars – when most men can barely go a minute without declaring war in their minds about someone they know.
THE WAR WITHIN
People who instigate negative drama never take responsibility for any of their actions. They play the victim role while stubbornly harboring bitterness and resentment. They simply enjoy the mayhem they set in motion, which is usually at someone else’s expense. The more attention they seek and the less they get, can throw them into a fury. Revenge is sure to follow. The longer it takes for them to garner sole attention, the more inconsiderate and heartless they become. And if someone leaves their needs unmet and their expectations unfulfilled, they become mean-spirited.
So they do what they do best to gain any attention, even if it’s negative. All for the sake of making themselves feel better by bringing someone else’s spirits down. They do this by spewing nasty words and eliciting gossip, a divide-and-conquer tactic. There’s a saying, misery loves company.
THE PATH TO PEACE ENCOURAGES US TO STEP IN FAITH TOWARD LOVE
The moment their harsh words take flight (mayday), the relationship will never be the same. Unfortunately, the cycle continues. We know what happens after that, harsh words have the tendency to make someone (besides them) feel terrible. The connection moves from bad to worse, from trust to distrust, from together… to apart.
When you’re constantly in conflict, deep in opposition, ask, is this the right place to be? If the answer is no, then the pathway to peace beckons. We invest ourselves in unfair relationships; we commit to loveless entanglements, then wonder what troubles our hearts. When we experience someone’s wrath, we end up standing in our vulnerability, and in our pain we continue to invest in relationships until there’s nothing left to invest.
When we believe in love, practice love, walk in love, then only peace can and will prevail. Love only lives within peace, and peace thrives where there’s love. If we know this, then why do we remain in the war zone?
WAR VERSUS PEACE
When you choose peace over war, you can love your way through it. Once you assess the damage, lovingly mend your heart, and take a step in a new direction, ultimately, you leave the trenches. By wrapping up the negative cycle, you take hold of the joy that will inevitably follow. The important thing is to listen to your heart, believing you can change your life. Just remember, not everyone understands the definition of love. Nor do they appreciate peace. I know letting go is never easy, and situations like this are a lose-lose proposition. However, sometimes when we lose someone who doesn’t value love, we actually win.
Peace demands the most heroic labor and the most difficult sacrifice. It demands greater heroism than war. It demands greater fidelity to the truth and a much more perfect purity of conscience.
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