It’s February and romance is in the air. Can you feel it? Perhaps you gave up on the challenge of putting yourself out there. Maybe you hit a lull, a pause, or you’ve taken a brief hiatus. Are you still searching? Where does it even begin? Well, that depends on you. This type of question is one that could be difficult to answer. The long and the short of it is all romantic relationships begin with attraction. I can’t imagine setting sights on someone with whom there is little to no mutual interest. There has to be something that not only draws us, but evokes our curiosity. We want to learn more about the person who captivates our attention. With that said. What does it take to attract attractive people?
Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, beauty is in the heart of the beholder.
With mutual admiration, dating is sure to follow. This is an opportunity to get to know the other person. It’s also where we can collect applicable information to discern whether something is worth our time to pursue.
CHEERFUL AND CAREFREE ATTITUDE
Through open lines of communication and lighthearted conversations, we get a sense of who someone is. Given sufficient time, we can also see how they conduct themselves. We can observe someone and look beyond their attractiveness to assess whether they’re the right fit.
Sometimes, we place too much emphasis on appearance. Even dismissing someone’s less than stellar personality. We may also place them on a pedestal, where we inadvertently invalidate and minimize our own values, beliefs, and standards. Or worse. Give no consideration to such aspects.
But it doesn’t end there. Hopefully, we have two people who are starting out with a clean slate. By that I mean, if hurt from any past relationship, they have already taken ample time to heal before entertaining someone new.
Let it hurt. Let it heal. And let it go.
Time heals, but it also gives those who are healing a chance to review and assess what they’ve gone through and what they’ve learned. Those past relationships taught us essential love lessons. Experience will always teach us some of the finest lessons. If all goes well, there’d be no need to repeat what we should have learned the first time. A healed version of you is worth its weight in gold because it gives way to how you will present yourself to a potential love interest.
ATTRACT ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE
A stronger, confident, and happier you… is essentially you at your best. And if you want to attract attractive people, it’s important to exude positive energy. At our finest, we will, in most cases, attract someone who’s a better match. Since we’re not out there, meeting people from a place of brokenness or from a place of loneliness, but from a place of readiness and wholeness.
Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet, strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go.
It’s one thing to survive a breakup by simply getting up and dusting yourself off. However, it becomes another story altogether when you come out on the other side better than who you were before. When on the road to recovery, there’s no extra baggage to weigh down a prospective new love or a potential relationship since there’s nothing weighing you down. Not only that, you’re also putting your best foot forward, determined to be your best to attract the best. In this space, you’re more inclined to attract attractive people.
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